Debbie Williams is a hypnotherapist and NLP trainer who has worked with many couples to help them conceive. She is the author of over 30 self help hypnosis recordings including overcome the fear of childbirth also known as special delivery. Debbie has worked with Paul McKenna for over 20 years now and he speaks very highly about her;
Debbie is a Hypnotherapist and NLP Trainer for over 20 years. She has been a clinical consultant to Just Be Well practice Harley Street, London, but now works from her purpose built clinic in Sutton Coldfield, West Midlands.
Debbie’s qualifications; Master Practitioner, Practitioner & Trainer in Neuro Linguistic Programming, Practitioner of Ericksonian Hypnosis, Foundation Diploma in Psychotherapy, Hypnosis & NLP, Diploma in Nutrition, and Diploma in Anatomy & Physiology. Also trained in counselling & psychological approaches to pain control, solution-focused therapy, life coaching & understanding & stopping addictive behaviour.
“Debbie is a skilled and effective NLP trainer and hypnotherapist with an amazing sense of humour and great compassion.” Paul McKenna
Stop stressing !
Easy to say but not so easy to do.
You may worry you won’t be able to get pregnant or it seems to be taking a long time to happen and you’re hearing stories of friends who announce they are expecting. It seems that everyone is having babies easily. You absorb this internally and worry it may never happen to you.
Unfortunately this kind of stressing can prevent conception as your body reads the stress as a message it’s not the right time to grow a baby. The environment feels uncertain and perhaps unsafe to conceive.
Finding something to helps you to release or let go of stress can change this message. It is helpful to find something you can do regularly to reduce any stresses that may be building up and hindering you.
For some a more active way is a regular workout at the gym, for others it can be a walking the dog in the park. When you move your arms and legs in a swinging motion (walking) it can cool down the brain and help clear the mind.
Meditation, yoga, tai chi and hypnosis are great ways to release stress and illicit the relaxation response as they all involve awareness of the breath and enabling it to deepen.
Any treatments like massages, reflexology or facials can be very supportive. It sends an important signal you are looking after yourself and being kind to you.
Ideally doing many activities to reduce stress will be beneficial. At least you are giving time to focus on something different for a while. The positive effects will compound over time.
Deal with the cause of the stresses.
Many times our thought processes are the cause of our stress. We worry about our fears and create images and ideas in mind of the worse possible scenario and then we ‘live there’ as if it is the reality.
Worry is just bad planning. You are thinking of something you fear or don’t want and step into the mind movie and feel all the bad feelings and get stuck. Because the feelings feel big and overwhelming it makes us believe they must be relevant and important. We can end up stuck in an un-resourceful loop.
Recognise this is a trap as feelings / emotions / pain are only messengers. Imagine accidentally putting your hand on a hot stove. Pain makes you remove your hand pretty quickly in order to prevent further damage.
We have to ask good questions like “ What can I do to make things better?” or “What do I need to learn to move on? “ These solution focused questions will help change the direction of your thinking towards more positive ideas and things you can actually do.
Perhaps focus on a health and wellness plan for mind and body…
When Paul McKenna interviewed multi millionaires for his book “I can make you rich” he discovered they all worry but it is only one part of a process. They write out the worse fears and look at them objectively.
Asking is this thought true and is it helpful in some way?
The next step after dumping the worry on paper is to ask what they want instead, then come up with a plan and put 99.99% focus into making their plan play out towards the best possible outcome.
They park the worries after they’ve acknowledged them and leave them to one side.
What if tonight you spent 15-30 minutes writing out your worries, expressing them all out on paper. Maybe later or the next evening come back to them and go through each worry / stress and ask “Is this thought true?” “Is it helping me?” “What do I want instead?” “What is the first easy step I can take?” “the second, third…?”
If you do this just once a week you will gain mastery over your own thoughts and find a calmer more trusting mindset will replace the worry one.
We have over 60,000 thoughts a day. Your mind plays the same ones over and over. When they are ‘inside’ it’s harder to have a perspective on them. Out on paper, you can reassure yourself and challenge the unhelpful ones.
The final tip for today is to spend some time acting as if you are pregnant.
Often when I work with ladies who are desperate to conceive. Thought processes are mixed between stresses and the conception part. They haven’t spent anytime imagining how it would feel to be pregnant and go through each stage feeling baby growing within the womb and when the time is right a calm, quick easy labour and birth resulting in a beautiful healthy and happy baby.
I always prescribe this to my clients as it will bring up fears and worries to the surface which is good because we can process them using hypnosis and NLP with questions like in tip number 2 as it will help clear any mental blockages.
Good hypnosis can remove mental limitations without you necessarily knowing what they are, whilst you are learning to relax even more deeply and switch off for a while.
The words and suggestions go deep into the subconscious mind, helping positive changes to happen and for you to feel calmer and more in flow with life.
I have many free hypnosis recordings to help you to conceive. Find them on the links below:
Free hypnosis trances http://www.debbiewilliams.co.uk/fertility-hypnotherapy-birmingham.htm
Overcome fear of childbirth http://www.debbiewilliamsassociates.co.uk/overcome_fear_of_childbirth.htm